How not to mess up your children in Divorce

I honestly don’t think people are intending to mess up their children when going through Divorce and certainly if you are reading this then I applaud you for wanting to make the best out of a bad situation for your kids. However, 9 times out of 10, people mess up and the children are the ones who get the brunt of it. Here are some basic No-No’s to avoid. Read more ›

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Divorce – Where Next?

So your divorce date comes through and this gives you a target, a day that this whole mess will all be over – right?

If there is ever a day of anti-climax, this will be one. All through the Divorce process, people hang onto the importance of this day, where they can start to get on with their lives. The problem is that when the day arrives, there is no fan fair, there is no big serenade of accomplishment. Read more ›

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How to get the most out of your Divorce

I spend quite a significant amount of time with clients assuring them that they have more control of the outcome of the Divorce than they originally perceive. Many people come prepared for a fight and with that mind-set is exactly what they will get. At North House Coaching, along with our legal colleagues at DMFL (http://dmfl.co.uk ) we promote the philosophy to Divorce with Dignity. This is about reducing the emotional conflict in the Divorce without compromising on the material outcome. We believe that by using some of our tips below, you will get a better outcome from your Divorce both materially and psychologically. Read more ›

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What Divorce feels like

Many people may be wondering what divorce feels like, perhaps they are thinking about ending their marriage but are too frightened of dealing with the Big D. If you have never known anyone to Divorce and only seen it on TV or in the news, then perception of a divorce will be full of conflict and drama. Whilst some Divorces do travel down that route, there are other options.

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Being Alone and Being Lonely

Sometimes the festive period makes people who are single feel somewhat envious of those people in relationships as if somehow being in a relationship is the more desirable status.  I hear many times from people, “Christmas would be better if I had someone to share it with. Why can’t I seem to find a man? Will I be single forever?”

The common theme amongst many singles is that they feel by being single, that they have failed in life somehow.

My view on this is totally the opposite. Read more ›

To Value your Workforce, you Need to Engage them and Build Better Relationships.

The key to a successful and productive workforce is to make them feel engaged.

There are endless discussions about how to make employees feel valued; giving them extra time off, being flexible with work hours making sure you say ‘Thank You’ and congratulating them when they have done well. Yes it will make them feel valued, but they wont’ feel completely engaged. Here are some strategies on how to engage your workforce and build better relationships; Read more ›

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The Ripple Effect of Divorce

Often when people think about Divorce, they assume that it is about the couple ending their marriage because one or both of them had been an arsehole and now it’s going to cost loads of money on solicitors. And to some extents this can be the case. However it is not readily acknowledged about how a Divorce of one couple can ripple throughout many more.

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Why are Celebrity Marriages failing right now?

This article was featured in Female First Magazine on 15th September 2015. To view a copy click here

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Image courtesy of marin at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Current News appears rife with Celebrity Divorces. Last Thursday saw David Walliams and Lara Stone the latest couple to hit the scrap heap. We’re seeing more and more celebrity couples part for good. Is it inevitable that these relationships will end because of the pressures of ‘celebrity’? Or is it the modern day view of marriage and relationships that have caused their demise?

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Why do people cheat?

This article was featured in Female First magazine on 1st September 2015. To view a copy click here

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Image courtesy of Simon Howden at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Since the Ashley Madison scandal has become a high profile story, it has left many people questioning ‘why do people cheat?’

In my work as a Relationship/Divorce Coach, I have come to realise that understanding why some people cheat and some don’t’ is a far more complex topic than the cheater just being an ‘asshole’ or not.

I would define that there are actually 4 types of people in relationships;

  1. The person who will always cheat
  2. The person who will cheat maybe once or twice in their lifetime
  3. The person who thinks about cheating but never acts on
  4. The person who never thinks about it and therefore never cheats.

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10 Ways to Divorce with Dignity

This article was featured in Female First magazine on 22nd August 2015.

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Image courtesy of Ambro at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Divorce is loaded with negative stereotypes of ‘she screwed me over’, or ‘he got really nasty,’ so we naturally prepare ourselves for a fight that we need to win. However Divorce really does not have to be that way. Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow who coined the term ‘Consciously Uncoupling’ portrayed to the world that Divorce can be done in a more dignified manner. If you want to approach your Divorce differently, here are some tips so that you too, can Divorce with Dignity and move on more easily; Read more ›

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