How Laughter can heal Hearbreak

March 31, 2017

IIn the midst of hurt and pain of heartbreak, the last thing that you can imagine yourself doing is laughing and yet the benefits of doing so can be extraordinary because laughter is a natural healer. It boosts the production of Serotonin, a natural anti-depressant in the body whilst also reducing the levels of stress hormones Cortisol, dopamine and epinephrine. Now the really cool thing is that the body cannot distinguish between real and fake laughter so faking it has exactly the same benefits as the real thing. Now I am sure there are many people who wish that in certain areas of their life that faking was a good as the real thing. For those areas, I cannot guarantee that but for laughter I can assure you this is the real deal.

Dealing with the In-Laws when going through Divorce

January 23, 2017

This article is also featured here http://www.divorcedparents.co.uk/page/details/dealing-with-the-in-laws

If Divorce was only between you and your ex, it would be simple, right? Unfortunately, the ripples of Divorce affect many people surrounding you, especially yours and your ex’s parents.

6 ways to manage your mental heatlh in Divorce

6 Ways to Manage Your Mental Health in Divorce

June 3, 2016

As featured in the Huffington Post

Getting Divorced can knock you sideways emotionally, physically and mentally and make you feel like your world has turned upside down.

Divorce with Dignity: Don’t Throw Daggers

April 25, 2016

So you and your Ex have decided to split, perhaps your Ex dumped you and you’re hurting. Or your Ex made you so miserable that you dumped them. Either way the relationship is over and you’re getting divorced. Emotions are going to be bouncing off the walls; anger, sadness frustration, perhaps elation. You name it, you will experience them all.

Divorce with Dignity – Lesson 1: Social Media is Not Your Friend

April 13, 2016

There is no question that it is hard when your marriage/relationship is over particularly if it has ended with deceit and lies. You are so desperately angry but often don’t have the opportunity to tell them what you really think. So what better way to get revenge and re-assert your power than to type a status, and post it on Facebook. Or how about posting a status full of anger whilst mentally sticking your middle finger up. Cringing later because it all came off a bit psycho and kind of feeds into what your ex has been saying about you. Our obsessions with social media popularity and connecting with people online has changed the way we relate to each other with people defining their sense of worth by the number of friends and followers they have. This medium that we are using to connect and relate to people is also starting to work against us.

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How not to mess up your children in Divorce

March 7, 2016

I honestly don’t think people are intending to mess up their children when going through Divorce and certainly if you are reading this then I applaud you for wanting to make the best out of a bad situation for your kids. However, 9 times out of 10, people mess up and the children are the ones who get the brunt of it. Here are some basic No-No’s to avoid.

Divorce – Where Next?

February 22, 2016

So your divorce date comes through and this gives you a target, a day that this whole mess will all be over – right?

If there is ever a day of anti-climax, this will be one. All through the Divorce process, people hang onto the importance of this day, where they can start to get on with their lives. The problem is that when the day arrives, there is no fan fair, there is no big serenade of accomplishment.

How to get the most out of your Divorce

February 16, 2016

I spend quite a significant amount of time with clients assuring them that they have more control of the outcome of the Divorce than they originally perceive. Many people come prepared for a fight and with that mind-set is exactly what they will get. At North House Coaching, along with our legal colleagues at DMFL (http://dmfl.co.uk ) we promote the philosophy to Divorce with Dignity. This is about reducing the emotional conflict in the Divorce without compromising on the material outcome. We believe that by using some of our tips below, you will get a better outcome from your Divorce both materially and psychologically.

Feelings and Thoughts cause attachments, so when you feel anger and hate towards someone, you are emotion

What Divorce feels like

January 18, 2016

Many people may be wondering what divorce feels like, perhaps they are thinking about ending their marriage but are too frightened of dealing with the Big D. If you have never known anyone to Divorce and only seen it on TV or in the news, then perception of a divorce will be full of conflict and drama. Whilst some Divorces do travel down that route, there are other options.

Being Alone and Being Lonely

December 29, 2015

Sometimes the festive period makes people who are single feel somewhat envious of those people in relationships as if somehow being in a relationship is the more desirable status. I hear many times from people, “Christmas would be better if I had someone to share it with. Why can’t I seem to find a man? Will I be single forever?”

The common theme amongst many singles is that they feel by being single, that they have failed in life somehow.

My view on this is totally the opposite.

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